🌻 Little self care tip this week: For any huns who went through a lot early on in their lives, and feel like they haven’t achieved much in comparison to other people - read this tweet. I came across it a while ago and it made me feel both seen and reassured. A reminder to cut yourself some slack and be proud of how strong you are, and also know that you won’t always feel so behind. I speak from experience huns - it gets so much better x

Dear Margie,
I'm 25 years old and a single mum. I thought I had it all, a loving partner, a nice house, good job and a baby. Honestly, I was living the life I never thought I would have. And then, he decided he didn't love me anymore and left, like moved to a whole new country left. I'm back in my childhood bedroom trying to heal my broken heart with a toddler. It's been a year since I moved back home, and some days I do great and other days I miss my ex and the life we had. I'm so lucky to be surrounded by supportive family but I'm still struggling :(Seeing happy couples and families all round me makes me feel like a failure. I don't know if I'll ever be ready to date again, but I don't want to be alone forever. None of my friends are in the same situation. They all seem so happy with their lives and I feel so ungrateful. My and my child are happy and healthy but I just feel like a massive failure sometimes. Will this feeling ever go away.
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Hey hun,
A big hug to you, I’m so sorry you’re going though all of that 💕First and foremost - you are not a failure! You are raising a toddler all by yourself and that alone is something you should be SO proud of. I know it probably seems like you’ll never get past this stage of life - but you will! I promise. Try to remember that life has its own seasons hun. Right now you are in a particularly difficult season - but it’s temporary and it will pass. I can understand it must be hard when you’re comparing your situation to that of your friends, but outside your own circle there are plenty of huns in a similar situation. For example: there’s a lovely girl on TikTok called @kee_mon - she’s 26 and recently just shared a post talking about how she was engaged and saving for a house but now she’s single and starting her life over with her toddler in her parents house. I would never look at her and think she is defined by her situation hun, she’s just in a particular season of her life - like you are. It must have been so painful for you to go through that experience with your ex, and I know you’re still grieving your old life in many ways - but your ex did you the biggest favour he could by showing you his true colours now. You don’t have to waste any more of your precious time with someone who does not deserve you. You’re also only 25 hun, there’s no rush to get back into dating if that’s not what you want right this moment. You said you were ‘living the life you thought you’d never have’ before your ex left, but really there is a life for you out there even better than you could ever imagine. Even better than the one you were living before. That wasn’t your one shot at happiness hun. Try to see this season of your life for what it is - a time for healing, reflecting, taking care of yourself and most importantly knowing what it is you want from life or from a future partner. You are exactly where you need to be on your own journey hun, so try to just take things day by day. There will come a day you realise you don’t feel so sad anymore, and you will begin to bloom again. You’re not at that point right now, but that’s okay - you’re not missing out on anything while you are healing. All of the good people and situations waiting to come into your life aren’t going anywhere hun, they’re meant just for you so you can’t lose them. They will wait. Give yourself all the time you need and never forget how worthy of love and happiness you are.
Love your mate,
Margie xxx
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OR instead of hand delivering it - why not just throw it through their window? They’d never have expected a rock with their name on it as a gift, so add to the experience with the method of delivery too! Imagine the surprise you’d get when a rock comes crashing though your living room window with ‘THANKS LOUISE’ written on it. Very unique huns! 💅 x

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👀 Watch

Girls Alone
This social experiment documentary was shot in 2002 and features 10 girls between the ages of 10 &11 being left alone in a house for a week with no adult supervision. It’s so interesting to see the generation a lot of us grew up in immortalised in this way, from the clothes they’re wearing to the Jacquline Wilson books they’re reading. It’s kinda sad considering 10 year olds now are buying Drunk Elephant skincare in Sephora and Space NK! You'd wonder how 10/11 year olds now would cope with a whole week of no screen time too 😬 I would love to read an interview from one of the girls who participated in this as an adult. Anyway it’s dead interesting to see the girls balance being children and also trying to look after themselves - well worth a watch on YouTube huns! x

👂Listen to

A Very British Cult
This podcast follows an 18 month investigation by the BBC into sinister “life coaching” company Lighthouse International (now trading as ‘Lighthouse Global) which led one man to sell his house and lose thousands of pounds, through fear, intimidation and control. It’s a scary look into this still operating organisation which has ripped many families apart. You can listen on BBC Sounds App, Spotify or Apple Podcasts x

For any huns who missed it, I have a Spotify playlist with all of my favourite tracks - perfect for a bop around your room or a cleaning spree 🥰 I’m always adding new songs too so ya don’t get bored x

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Margie’s Question of the week 💬

Last week I asked - ‘What’s the worst item of clothing/outfit you’ve ever bought?’ and I’m glad you huns have all moved past these phases 😅💕

“Three words: galaxy. cat. tee-shirt. (bonus: it had HORIZONTAL STRIPES on the back!!!!)”

“The worst outfit/piece of clothing is a white bikini top. It was only a cheap one from PLT but I was only 14 and it was a last min holiday with my dad. You can just imagine the rest huns as soon as I got in the water pure SEE THROUGH. Flashed my dad streaks nd he even texted my mom mortified saying she is turning into a woman dead awkward hun.“

“Do you remember that Budweiser "Waaaassup?” Ad from the late 90’s that seemed like the coolest thing ever at the time? I, as an 8 year old, had a red fleece with ‘Waaaaaaaasssup?” on the front of it and I thought I was so edgy and cool 😭 f*ck me that was cringe”

“Black diesel trousers that were too tight and very painful on the vagina”

“Not an item of clothing but wearing my festival bands on my wrist for up to a year after the festival to look cool 😩”

“I got convinced to buy one of those ‘drummer boy’ jackets at a merch stand outside of a My Chemical Romance gig. You know the one Gerard Way wore during the Black Parade tour?? It was so expensive and I never even wore it”

Next week’s question is - Who’s the most famous person you've ever met? (From A to Z list celebs!) Hit reply to this hunmail if you’ve got a story to share with the hunlist huns! 💓

Thank you AGAIN for all your feedback huns - appreciate them all so much 💕 Have a great week! Love, your mate Margie xxx