🌻 Little wholesome tip this week: Huns do you ever find yourself thinking back on a time where a stranger was really kind to you and it imprinted onto your memory and makes ya feel all warm and fuzzy? Well chances are you are that memory for someone else too! Never underestimate the power of a kind gesture or comment 🥰 …now I’m crying all over again oh CHRIST I CANNOT WAIT TO GET MY PERIOD x

Dear Margie,
I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now but six months into our relationship my best friend met his twin brother (unidentical - thank god) and hit it off. They started going out but it was messy from the start. She was anxious and clingy and he was jealous and controlling. They broke up multiple times but always got back together regardless of mine or anyone else’s advice. She started choosing him a lot over me but I let it go because I knew she was struggling really and in a toxic environment. Eventually, back in November I caught him red handed cheating and told my friend. He admitted it to her too, but instead of breaking up with him she got mad at me and totally blamed me - claiming I never liked him - despite him being my boyfriends twin. She hasn’t spoken to me since except to scream abuse at me one night. But I still miss her. What do I do? Do I try and make up even tho she’s rejected my attempts a few times? To make it worse, she’s gone off and become besties with a girl she knows hates me and they’ve been spreading nasty rumours about me. I know she isn’t really like this and it’s the other girls influence. I need help! What should I do hun 💕💕
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Hey hun,
That’s such an awful experience 😢 I’m sorry you had to go through it. If I’m being totally honest hun, it sounds like your best mate isn’t who you think she is. If she was really a good mate then she wouldn’t have got mad at you for exposing her boyfriends’ cheating, nor would she have gone off to become besties with someone who doesn't like you and spread rumours about you. That’s mean girl behaviour. You come across as a hun who has always had your mate’s best interests at heart, and she comes across as someone who neglected your friendship during her relationship, got mad at you for looking out for her, screamed abuse at you and then intentionally spread bad things about you with another mean girl. That is not a person you want to have or need in your life hun - that’s a toxic friend. You deserve so much better. You say she has already rejected your attempts to make up with her, but there’s nothing for you to make up for hun - you didn’t do anything wrong. She is the one who should be apologising for treating you so badly. Please don’t give a toxic friend like that the satisfaction of knowing you miss her, instead my suggestion is that you cut her out from your life and focus on the friends who truly appreciate you. I know it’s hard to accept that some mates aren’t who we thought they were - especially when we look back on the good times with our rose tinted glasses - but it’s a very common thing that happens as we come into our twenties and beyond. Maybe cutting her out of your life will give her a wake up call and she’ll apologise to you for her hurtful behaviour - or maybe she won’t react at all and that’s life’s way of letting you know it’s time to move on from her. Some mates just don’t follow us into the next stages of our life and that’s okay. There will always be new mates for us to make and happy memories to go along with them. Never beg anyone to be in your life who doesn’t deserve to be there hun. You’re a lovely person and you deserve the world. Big hugs 💕 
Love your mate,
Margie xxx
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Every week me nan selects a tip from a “real life” magazine especially for the huns! This week’s tip:

“Just be careful - they have no grip” ☹️ I really hope no other nans tried this and ended up in A&E huns x

Margie, Give Me Something to…

👀 Watch

Hotter Than My Daughter
This BBC series aired in 2010 and focuses on mum and daughter duos who don’t dress appropriately for their age (according to society at that time lol) It’s got similar vibes to Snog Marry Avoid and you’ll get a good laugh out of the outdated outfits huns 😅 The video quality isn’t the best but there’s loadsa episodes on YouTube x

👂Listen To

The Retreat
This podcast hosted by Madison Marriage looks at those intense 10 day silent meditation retreats and people who have been negatively impacted by them. A father of adult twin daughters emailed Madison (who is a special investigations editor for the Financial Times) pleading for her to look into these retreats which he said had caused “serious damage” to his daughters. An eye opening listen huns! You can get it on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you get your podcasts x

For any huns who missed it, I have a Spotify playlist with all of my favourite tracks - perfect for a bop around your room or a cleaning spree 🥰 I’m always adding new songs too so ya don’t get bored x

Margie’s Question of the week 💬

Last week I asked - “What's the pettiest thing that sparked an explosive teenage fight with your bestie?” and you huns brought the drama x 💕

“I was hanging out with my mate and we were around 9 or 10 and I saw a single nit (headlice) crawling up a strand of her hair so I casually mentioned it to her (not thinking it was a big deal cuz we’ve all had them from primary school at some point!) and she SCREAMED and ran down to her mam crying and saying to her that I said she has nits (but I mean she did huns) and I could hear her mam giving out about me so I just silently let myself out her front door. So awks xx”

“It's more of a preteen fight than teenage years, but when I was 11 my dad was away on business for almost a year and my mum didn't get home from work until 5:00 pm, so I started going to my best pal's house after school every day. It started out so well, with snacks and telly for hours every day. Turns out this was WAY too much one-on-one time for us, and things started getting a bit tense over at hers. One day I could tell she was annoyed by my being there and I was feeling combative so I pestered her until she told me what was wrong. She said I was eating them out of house and home and that her parents couldn't afford to keep feeding me 🤣🤣 I like a biscuit as much as anyone, Margie, but she acted like they were about to be evicted because I was inhaling everything in the cupboards. A lot of screaming and crying ensued, and that's how I was finally allowed to start going home alone. Pure bliss! All's well, though, we made up and I was her maid of honour last year! x”

“When we were 13 my friend came into school wearing a key necklace she’d made because Zoey 101 had a key necklace and I slagged her over it and she stopped talking to me. I feel so bad about that now”

Next week’s question is - “What's the most mortifying teenage diary excerpt you can share?”- Hit reply to this hunmail if you’ve got one to share with the huns! 💓 x

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That’s all from me this week huns! Always appreciate your feedback so thank you as always for rating 💕 Have a gorgeous week!
Love, your mate Margie xxx