🌻 Little self care tip this week: 
Just like I did in my post on TikTok, if you’re feeling low try manually hacking your happiness chemicals huns!
Want some Dopamine? Complete a task, eat some food, do self care activities.
Want some Oxytocin? Hug a friend or family member, play with an animal, give someone a compliment.
Want some Serotonin? Meditate, walk in nature, get some sunlight.
Want some Endorphin? Exercise, watch your fave comedian, eat dark chocolate.

Dear Margie,
I’m feeling very lonely at the moment. I’m in my early 20s and haven’t been in a relationship. I’m a bisexual lad and have struggled with my sexuality for the longest time, I also feel like I’m somewhere on the asexual spectrum. All of my mates are out dating or in a relationship and I’m very jealous but also don't feel that same desire to have one night stands (not judging huns who do, as long as is consensual I believe huns should do what they like x). I also struggle with online dating and would like to meet someone organically but I also struggle with generalised anxiety so I find it hard to talk to people. When I do manage to go on a night out I spend a lot of the time focused on my body and how I look. I just started the gym because I thought maybe my insecurities were holding me back from exploring my sexuality, I do struggle with self confidence so I’m hoping that if I feel like I look better maybe I’ll meet someone. Idk hun, I just feel silly and inexperienced :(( I’m scared I’m going to be alone forever and get dead embarrassed when my mates bring up who they’re talking to and feel like they’re judging me. Any advice?
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Hey hun,
So sorry you’ve not been feeling the best. I know it’s so easy to feel like there’s a mandatory timeline to experience certain milestones when we’re comparing ourselves to our mates, but everyone is on their own unique journey. It seems like you’re putting your energy into worrying about external things and also putting a lot of pressure on yourself and I just want to give ya a big hug and reassure you that everything is going to be okay hun 💕 You don’t have to have life all figured out now. If you’re in your early twenties you’re only just entering the stage of life where it’s a lot of trial and error and we can feel very unsure about ourselves and lack confidence in a lot of ways. It’s all so normal, I was just the same at that age. The best thing you can do is redirect all of your energy back into yourself and building up your self esteem. The stronger your sense of self the less you’ll worry what others think of you, and the more confident you’ll be in the wonderful qualities you have to offer as a partner. Do you feel like you can talk about your asexual feelings with your mates, or is this something you’ve had to keep to yourself? If it’s something you’ve been struggling with on your own, I can understand why you’d feel particularly alienated hun. Reading posts on the r/asexuality subreddit might make you feel less alone, and you can even post your own questions anon so it’s a great resource to connect with like minded people. If I could go back to my early twenties the one thing I would have done is spend more time working on my confidence and self esteem instead of worrying about what others thought of me - so see this as a message from your future self to you now. Love yourself and who you are wholeheartedly, prioritise yourself and have the courage to stand in your own beliefs about what you want. Don’t worry about what your friends think of your personal journey, you haven’t finished meeting all of the people who are going to matter in your life. Everything is going to work out for you hun, just invest in the wonderful person you are and the rest will fall into place 🥰
Love your mate,
Margie xxx
If you want to submit a question to Dear Margie you can hit reply huns. Make sure you mention your question is for the hunmail - otherwise I won’t assume permission to share it. I’m so sorry I don’t have the capacity to get back to everyone at the minute💓 x

Every week me nan selects a tip from one of her real life magazines especially for the huns! This week’s tip:

A 3D hat picture! This is genius because the “3D” possibilities are endless huns! You could even have a 3D shoe picture! You’d only have to spend a mere 10-15 minutes at the start of every visit from friends or family telling them you promise you’re doing fine, actually. But once that conversation is out of the way the first time - they’d probably never ask you again and then they’re just free to admire your 3D hat picture 😌 x

Margie, Give Me Something to…

👀 Watch

Lily Allen - From Riches to Rags
Shot in 2010, this programme sees 25 year old Lily Allen (at the height of her career) decide to quit touring to open a fancy vintage clothing rental shop in London with her sister called ‘Lucy In Disguise’. The behind the scenes planning of the business is a total sh*tshow but it’s very entertaining huns. It can be sad at times though - it covers the time period when Lily sadly loses her first child - so just a trigger warning for infant loss. All 3 episodes are uploaded on that YouTube channel huns, it’s well worth a watch! x

👂Listen to

Harsh Reality: The Story of Miriam Rivera
The podcast series covers the story of the controversial British reality dating show ‘There's Something About Miriam’, as well as the life of its star, Mexican model Miriam Rivera. In a villa in Ibiza, 6 guys compete for a cash prize and for the love of the beautiful and mysterious Miriam. But this is the era of “cruel reality TV” and the show producers have a different goal: they want to surprise the men with the fact that Miriam is trans. I am so glad this podcast series recalls Miriam as a superstar on the New York ball scene and celebrates her life as a pioneer, rather than a victim of cruelty from this awful reality tv show. It’s quite a sad listen at times huns, but very interesting and poignant. You can listen to the first ep for free on Apple and Spotify, then the rest on Wondery+ x

For any huns who missed it, I have a Spotify playlist with all of my favourite tracks - perfect for a bop around your room or a cleaning spree 🥰 I’m always adding new songs too so ya don’t get bored x

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Margie’s Question of the week 💬

““Last week I asked - ‘Tell me one of your most dramatic teenage meltdowns e.g a time you didn’t get your own way, a time you thought your life was over (but obviously wasn’t!) an emo time you thought ‘NO ONE UNDERSTANDS ME!’ and once again you huns had me loll’ing! 😅💕

“I think I was around 13 at the time and me and my best friend were sat on the big grass field opposite my house and we were listening to some MC music (ifykyk) and we decided to do our own 😭 recorded it on my Samsung D500 and we thought it was great. Fast forward a few days later, my Mum and brother found it on my phone and started absolutely howling and taking the mick out of me. I decided I was going to run away, packed a few things in a little back pack I had, even threatened to jump out my bedroom window (I didn’t) and sat at the bottom of my street for a few hours till I got sick and returned home 😂😭😭😭”

“When I was 15 me and my mate both fancied the same guy. One night we were all hanging out in a group together and my mate had to go home but the guy offered to walk her. I KNEW they’d end up kissing and they did. I spent the night listening to ‘Crawling’ by Linkin’ Park on repeat on my mp3 player and crying in bed 😹”

“When I was 13 my dad had an affair so I peed in his and his new girlfriend's shampoo 😶 I still cannot believe I did that“

“My mam grounded me on my birthday so I locked myself in my room to spite her, but I managed to collapse the lock somehow and then I got stuck in my room and they had to get a locksmith out”

‘When I was 15 my older cousin was over at our house for xmas and I (male) wanted to seem cooler so decided to drink in secret (even though I’d never drank before) I hated the taste of grown up drinks so just slammed a load of baileys instead and my parents were noticing I was getting progressively looser but didn’t know why. Then I asked if I could invite my girlfriend over (who my mum hated). By the time my girlfriend arrived It was that ‘silently watching tv’ portion of xmas day and I was bailey’s drunk and kissing my girlfriend really passionately and being so inappropriate while my parents were there trying to watch tv. My dad had to ask me to stop. CRINGE.”

Next week’s question is - What’s the worst item of clothing/outfit you’ve ever bought? Hit reply to this hunmail if you’ve got a story to share with the hunlist huns! 💓

Thanks for all your feedback as always huns - I read and appreciate every one 💕 Have a great week! Love, your mate Margie xxx